OK, I know it's been a couple of days but, I wanted to really touch on something that is apart of "My Life" as it pertains to my sexuality. As for those of you who don't know, I am a proud, black gay man. I don't go around blasting to the world that I'm gay, but at the same time I don't deny it either. With that being said...
The gay lifestyle is one of the most difficult lifestyles to live. Although a lot has changed, society is still to this day very judgemental of our way of life. Which brings me to the topic at hand. wE aRE fAMILY!
One of my ex partners and I were having a conversation and asked who was I talking to on the phone. I explained to him that I was talking to my "gay son". He then proceeded to say, "why do y'all do that shit?" "Why is it that fags have gay mommas, daddies, kids n shit". At first I was slightly offended, but I had to educate his ignorance. So for those of you as well who aren't real familiar as to why we as gay people have our own family, let me enlighten you.
Let me first start off by saying I have 5 gay kids and host of brothers that I love. No sisters or parents at this time. Nothing against those type of relatives, that's just the way it always worked out in my family. And to my kids I'm affectionately known as Dad. Now as far as us creating these families, the whole family aspect of the gay lifestyle derived from a "Gay House". A Gay House is much like your traditional heterosexual household. In it you have, mom, dad, brother, sister, etc. Gay people started creating these "Houses" because many of their families would outcast them once their sexuality was revealed. They would lose the love and support of their parents, and siblings, aunts, uncles, and so forth. Thus befriending people who would soon take the place of, or remind them of that relative. As well a lot of other gay people look at "Gay Houses & Families" as a very feminine thing. Which has in turn given the whole "House" and "Family" thing a negative reputation. That and I would also say that, most of the Mother figures in the family would be betrayed by a Drag Queen or a very feminine acting gay man.
So in conclusion my friends...Lets unite as family, LOVE one another, and stop being so judgmental towards the things we are ignorant about. We are all family and we are all God's children! G'Bless...
B~Thaike'
I was going to write alot in response to this, but decided to keep it as short as possible. People tend to act the way that they do towards this lifestyle, and others, simply because they fear it. They fear it because they do not understand it, and what they do not understand becomes easier to judge. I'll admit...I was this way once, about many other things, but as I grow older I'm trying more and more to educate myself and understand. That, in which I do not understand, I inquire about. As for who I am, I feel no shame because I no longer have anything to feel ashamed about. I've come to accept that I am the ME that The Creator made me to be. There are many that do not understand, or accept it, but it's neither their place, or right, to do so....Only God above can. That is the only one that I fear and have to answer to. So I say this, educate yourself on and about as much as you can, for knowledge is power, and in that power comes strength and wisdom...which no man/woman can take away. Now I know this may be totally off subject, but, this is what came to mind as I read this and responded to it.
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